Category : New Sexual Partner Safety
Meeting a swinger for the first time can be a little frightening. When you meet people online you don’t really know much about them until after you meet in person. Meeting someone with the intention of potential sexual activity just makes this even more nerve wracking. Many people want to take someone with them on a first time meeting. If this is what you want to do, here’s how to handle it.
Let Them Know
Taking someone with you to meet anyone you’ve met online, swinger or not, is a good idea. It allows you to stay safe and someone who can help with the connection. But it’s not a good idea to just show up with someone else with you. Instead, let them know you plan in bringing a friend. If you are part of a swinging couple, let them know that your partner will be joining you for the meeting. Also allow them to bring someone with them. That way they are more comfortable as well.
Where to Meet
Try to keep the first meeting in a public place. If you get along, you can move on to somewhere more private for sex. This way you can meet in a safe place, enjoy conversation, and get to know each other better. Try to pick a place where you will be able to enjoy intimate conversations without offending others. Quiet restaurants, coffee houses, and even bakeries and pastry shops can make an excellent backdrop for a first time meeting.
Safety should be a priority when you’re dogging. Even though you will be with other people who practice the same thing, there are still many hidden dangers involved. Part of the excitement stems from the potential dangers. Here are ways you can keep yourself safe while having fun.
Know the Area
In case something bad was to go down, you need to know how to get out of the area on foot. Plenty of things can happen that would result in you needing to leave your car and just go. Don’t go dogging in areas that you are unfamiliar with.
Let Someone Else Know
Even though dogging is largely an underground activity, you should tell a trusted friend where you will be. They don’t need to know all the details unless you want to share them. This way you know that someone is aware that you are going out. If you are meeting with a specific person, let the friend know who you plan on meeting as well.
What to Take
Other than the normal dogging materials such as condoms, you should have a small emergency pack in case things get out of hand. A flashlight is essential. You can find lights that don’t require batteries. This way you don’t have to worry about it not working when you need it. Also make sure you have a cell phone with a fully charged battery. This will allow you to call for help should you need it. Pepper spray isn’t a bad idea either if you are comfortable handling it.
Meeting someone for the first time is nerve wracking enough. Throw in the fact that it may not be a genuine connection and it can be even scarier. There are several things you can do before the meeting to make sure they are real. This way you aren’t wasting your time.
Use Cam Chat
If you have access to a webcam, this is a great way to talk to someone before you meet them. This way you have less of a chance of setting up a meeting with someone who isn’t genuine. If they are willing to chat with you on camera, and the video appears to match the conversation, then you are pretty safe. It will also allow you to see how closely the person and their picture match up. Some people use older photos for online dating profiles.
Read Between the Lines
If someone is hesitant to meet in person, there could be several reasons. Some people really are just nervous. Others have something to hide. You can usually figure out if they are married or just generally unavailable by looking for a few signs. If they only want to meet you during the week at lunch time, they may be with someone. Lunch dates are great for first meetings, but they also give someone who isn’t really available a good time to get out. Look at the times you typically talk online, and try to match this up with the times they want to meet. Someone who only chats very late at night, but then wants to meet in the middle of the day should throw a red flag.