Meeting someone for the first time is nerve wracking enough. Throw in the fact that it may not be a genuine connection and it can be even scarier. There are several things you can do before the meeting to make sure they are real. This way you aren’t wasting your time.
Use Cam Chat
If you have access to a webcam, this is a great way to talk to someone before you meet them. This way you have less of a chance of setting up a meeting with someone who isn’t genuine. If they are willing to chat with you on camera, and the video appears to match the conversation, then you are pretty safe. It will also allow you to see how closely the person and their picture match up. Some people use older photos for online dating profiles.
Read Between the Lines
If someone is hesitant to meet in person, there could be several reasons. Some people really are just nervous. Others have something to hide. You can usually figure out if they are married or just generally unavailable by looking for a few signs. If they only want to meet you during the week at lunch time, they may be with someone. Lunch dates are great for first meetings, but they also give someone who isn’t really available a good time to get out. Look at the times you typically talk online, and try to match this up with the times they want to meet. Someone who only chats very late at night, but then wants to meet in the middle of the day should throw a red flag.